Once you've had some time to consistently write down what you’re grateful for you'll become more aware of what you appreciate in your life. As it becomes second nature to focus on the positives and let go of the negative things you can’t control, you should notice less stress, higher levels of happiness, better sleep, increased mindfulness and even a healthier body.
It’s time to share what you appreciate. Whether it’s a ceremony for one or something you’ll do together, it’s time to let the positive thoughts and experiences influence our behaviors and intentions for the future.
We all know that great relationships require open, honest conversation in an environment that feels safe. Throwing a Dwelling Ceremony is celebration of just that.
Step 1: Set a date
Choose a date to have a ceremony and put it on the calendar! We love having these ceremonies around holidays or other special events that happen every year such as anniversaries and birthdays. Whether you choose to do this monthly or yearly is up to you and there’s no wrong way to do it, so think about a date that makes sense for you and your loved ones. We suggest a time when you naturally feel motivated to create new intentions and welcome change.
Step 2: Make it special
Just like any kind of ceremony, it’s important to take a moment to make it special. Whether that’s a sit down dinner, symbolic decorations, or a meaningful playlist, think about how you can make the act of sharing this moment feel special. (Check out our blog for inspiration!)
Step 3: Focus on the positive
This is the magic part. Here’s where you open the + Dwelling Box, pull out the notes and read them to each other. You can read your own notes, or let others read them for you and experience for themselves how they made you feel. This part is all about what feels right, so make it your own!
Step 4: Let go of the negative
This is also part of the magic. There’s nothing quite like letting go. It feels cathartic and freeing. You might not even remember everything you wrote down - and that’s ok. The point is, you’re letting go of negative energy, thoughts and feelings. The way you let go is up to you. Burn, bury or toss it in the recycling bin.
Note: Your - Dwelling Box is made of 100% recycled paper and will burn, however, we don’t recommend burning your box unless you have a safe place to do so such as a fireplace or outdoor fire pit with cage.
Step 5: Set intentions
When you learn what you appreciate about each other, you’re more likely to transform the occasional good deed into healthy relationship habits. Take the time to talk about the little things (and the big things) and set an intention to do more of what makes yourself and each other feel gratitude. Remember, sometimes it’s the little routine things that bring about the most positive change.
Tips for families with children
Thanks to a digital world, our children have never been influenced by so many people, events or experiences. We made Dwelling Boxes to give our children a practical tool for building a positive mindset that will serve them throughout their lives. It’s never too early to appreciate all that you already have.
Remember to explain why you are having a ceremony. Make sure they realize this is a celebration of what makes them happy!
- Consider having color coded pads for each child, it can help them identify their own notes during the ceremony.
- Decorate! Your Dwelling Boxes are a clean slate - just like an art canvas! Draw, paint or glue your way to a personalized box that helps your children connect even more to the experience. (Don’t forget to show us on instagram @dwellingboxes #dwellingboxes #dwellingpositive)
“When I started counting my blessings, my whole life turned around.”
- Willie Nelson